tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post8847319774996134661..comments2023-10-08T22:15:45.041+11:00Comments on Life & Other Crises: Cuddle? Fine. But Get Out Of My Bed.Kerri Sackvillehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08404421856986720832noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-47646723099353345092011-04-21T12:03:39.816+10:002011-04-21T12:03:39.816+10:00Wow, I thought I was the only one who got uncomfor...Wow, I thought I was the only one who got uncomfortable sharing a bed with another female! I have no idea why, but I'll take the couch over sharing ANY day! The weekend sounds fun though, you should definitely still go and just work around it!!<br><br>My husband and I do much better sleeping together since we got the king size bed! Now, we cuddle for a little bit, watching TV, then give eachother a peck goodnight and retreat to our own sides! It works for us!!Anything Fits a Naked Manhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07579409446582399318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-81657674759591852042011-04-21T12:03:39.478+10:002011-04-21T12:03:39.478+10:00I'm so with you, I HATE having to share a bed ...I'm so with you, I HATE having to share a bed with anyone, including my husband. Even as a kid, I remember being at friends' for sleep overs and I would just wishing they'd stop breathing (not because I wanted them dead - just to shut up). I would love separate beds, but we've settled for the king size option (my husband feels separate beds would be 'unromantic'- somehow he's managed to miss that that description would pretty much apply to all other aspects of our lives but anyway!). Oh, and I wear ear plugs so I can't hear him breath (or our daughter call out, so there is an extra benefit too).<br><br>Once we went on holiday and were forced in to a queen size bed AND I'd forgotten the ear plugs and couldn't get any more. Lets just say it we weren't at our most loving for that week!Mumofagiftedgirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09417430377923253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-11704602556801750722011-04-21T12:03:39.105+10:002011-04-21T12:03:39.105+10:00This was so funny. I actually share a bed with my...This was so funny. I actually share a bed with my friend and my sister on a regular basis...which is a little weird, particularly as my bed has just me in it for the majority of the time and, like you, I really do LIKE MY OWN SPACE!Nicolahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07017352687163694581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-83849405112915877202011-04-21T12:03:38.350+10:002011-04-21T12:03:38.350+10:00Wonderful - very very funny!! Lots of applications...Wonderful - very very funny!! Lots of applications in my life.Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11581282468112255497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-40173647277209369592011-04-21T12:03:38.116+10:002011-04-21T12:03:38.116+10:00This was SO funny!! I can so totally relate to it...This was SO funny!! I can so totally relate to it! I've said to my husband a few times about how cool would it be to have two single beds instead as he is also very noisy and I love lots of space ... he's just like, "Yeah, whatever..." ha ha!Daniellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04498867351423192936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-86820814304609350252010-03-15T08:35:26.343+11:002010-03-15T08:35:26.343+11:00I too have been trying to convince my husband to g...I too have been trying to convince my husband to go separate beds, even separate rooms, I've even tried to entice him with the thought of how exciting it would be to sneak into each others rooms on occasion. He won't budge, I think he sees it as the beginning of the end....<br /><br />As far as sleeping with another female, I can't do it, just imagine an accidental throwing a leg over.Linda Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07529172123543772763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-55465700359165531612010-03-14T08:21:38.186+11:002010-03-14T08:21:38.186+11:00This was SO funny!! I can so totally relate to it...This was SO funny!! I can so totally relate to it! I've said to my husband a few times about how cool would it be to have two single beds instead as he is also very noisy and I love lots of space ... he's just like, "Yeah, whatever..." ha ha!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-20616048472621286362010-03-13T11:19:53.570+11:002010-03-13T11:19:53.570+11:00I understand why you wouldn't want to share a ...I understand why you wouldn't want to share a bed with your friend. I'm not sure I can put my understanding into words but I'll try. <br /><br />I think it's about boundaries and crossing over to ..... that's the point isn't it? Crossing over to what? To strangeness .... to body contact with a friend. <br /><br />Being up close and personal at forty is so different to up close and personal at four. When you're four you don't think past your own feelings and your own farts. But at forty ... well what if you want to fart and what about the early morning breath? <br /><br />And with friendship, you need to be mindful and thoughtful. How can you be mindful and thoughtful when you're asleep?<br /><br />With a marriage (during wakeful and sleepful times) you've really been in and around each other's ebb and flow (sex, bad breath, farts and fights) and you learn to mould, meld and manouvre (shit where's my spell check). But with a female friend (if you're not gay) well it's just new and strange really to sleep in the same bad. <br /><br />Even at fourteen I never slept a wink when I shared a bed with a friend during a sleepover.<br /><br />And being especially asked to share a bed by your friend makes it even more strange. What does that mean ? To be chosen!! To be chosen ahead of the rest!! <br /><br />The other one that I find really hard is to be away with friends and have to share a common bathroom. <br /><br />It's all about boundaries I think. <br /><br />So what to do? <br /><br />Maybe take a sleeping bag and one of those blow up beds and say that you need to sleep alone because ..... Hell I have no idea what reason you give. Maybe say you have a cold?Loreleinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-27065888840529754352010-03-12T18:20:06.385+11:002010-03-12T18:20:06.385+11:00Wonderful - very very funny!! Lots of applications...Wonderful - very very funny!! Lots of applications in my life.Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11581282468112255497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-2392343356611425002010-03-12T16:21:19.994+11:002010-03-12T16:21:19.994+11:00I'm with you, Taryn. I had to share with a mat...I'm with you, Taryn. I had to share with a mate a few months ago...and even though I was a bit dubious (she was 8 months pregnant at the time) it was actually fine. But then again, maybe it was down to the fabulous beds at The Palazzo (Vegas). No spooning, though...that would've been a bit creepy.Anj and Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06559821447701440131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-11451953956063692952010-03-12T15:28:32.311+11:002010-03-12T15:28:32.311+11:00I had to bunk in with a friend recently at a night...I had to bunk in with a friend recently at a night away with the girls and it really wasn't that bad! Once we had hopped into bed we lay and talked and happily slept. Although I should mention that she was feeling sick during the night so I went and slept on the couch to give her some room. I am nice like that! xTarynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16780149973550636286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-67181965117825894082010-03-12T15:17:17.006+11:002010-03-12T15:17:17.006+11:00I'd LOVE to sleep separately from my wife, but...I'd LOVE to sleep separately from my wife, but she won't have a bar of it. No, it's not my unquestionable magnetism, it's just that she hates wearing bedsocks, and prefers to warm her frigid feet on me. Personally,I think beds are for sleeping only, particularly if you're married.Using beds for, you know, THAT thing seems unseemly, somehow......Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-53675682723458817012010-03-12T12:49:01.218+11:002010-03-12T12:49:01.218+11:00This was so funny. I actually share a bed with my...This was so funny. I actually share a bed with my friend and my sister on a regular basis...which is a little weird, particularly as my bed has just me in it for the majority of the time and, like you, I really do LIKE MY OWN SPACE!Nicolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07017352687163694581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-90687566470668329542010-03-12T11:26:44.845+11:002010-03-12T11:26:44.845+11:00I think separate beds should be mandatory. My hus...I think separate beds should be mandatory. My husband kept me awake for hours last night with his snoring, tossing and turning etc etc. I probably do the same from time to time (hopefully not the snoring but who knows). I've never understood people who claim that they sleep practically right on top of their partner and can't stand to sleep alone. As much as I love my husband I think we both would have a much better nights sleep curled up alone in separate beds (and bedrooms if we had a spare one). As for sharing with a friend - no way!Jackyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02044277612922070881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-11811263119388467092010-03-12T11:23:25.597+11:002010-03-12T11:23:25.597+11:00I'm so with you, I HATE having to share a bed ...I'm so with you, I HATE having to share a bed with anyone, including my husband. Even as a kid, I remember being at friends' for sleep overs and I would just wishing they'd stop breathing (not because I wanted them dead - just to shut up). I would love separate beds, but we've settled for the king size option (my husband feels separate beds would be 'unromantic'- somehow he's managed to miss that that description would pretty much apply to all other aspects of our lives but anyway!). Oh, and I wear ear plugs so I can't hear him breath (or our daughter call out, so there is an extra benefit too).<br /><br />Once we went on holiday and were forced in to a queen size bed AND I'd forgotten the ear plugs and couldn't get any more. Lets just say it we weren't at our most loving for that week!Mumofagiftedgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09417430377923253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-46966384823936867562010-03-12T11:13:15.349+11:002010-03-12T11:13:15.349+11:00Wow, I thought I was the only one who got uncomfor...Wow, I thought I was the only one who got uncomfortable sharing a bed with another female! I have no idea why, but I'll take the couch over sharing ANY day! The weekend sounds fun though, you should definitely still go and just work around it!!<br /><br />My husband and I do much better sleeping together since we got the king size bed! Now, we cuddle for a little bit, watching TV, then give eachother a peck goodnight and retreat to our own sides! It works for us!!Anything Fits A Naked Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07579409446582399318noreply@blogger.com