tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post4023263435254363557..comments2023-10-08T22:15:45.041+11:00Comments on Life & Other Crises: When Your Writing Compromises AnotherKerri Sackvillehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08404421856986720832noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-57397146505369809732015-01-10T19:37:31.212+11:002015-01-10T19:37:31.212+11:00This is the precise weblog for anybody who needs t...This is the precise weblog for anybody who needs to seek out out about this topic. You notice so much its almost arduous to argue with you. You positively put a brand new spin on a subject that's been written about for years. Nice stuff, simply nice!Water Park in Delhi NCRnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-52355077455924113512015-01-08T21:38:47.443+11:002015-01-08T21:38:47.443+11:00I felt EXACTLY as you. Other people had a complete...I felt EXACTLY as you. Other people had a completely different reaction. But I felt, and still feel, it was manipulative and insincere.Kerri Sackvillehttp://www.lifeandothercrises.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-3189780487232767902015-01-08T21:37:10.672+11:002015-01-08T21:37:10.672+11:00You're right. That's really awful.You're right. That's really awful.Kerri Sackvillehttp://www.lifeandothercrises.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-67540010640197082982015-01-08T16:24:57.673+11:002015-01-08T16:24:57.673+11:00I worry about people telling others' stories o...I worry about people telling others' stories on their blog. When I write about people in my life, I always ask their permission. If I write about someone else - like a story of discrimination or something that's been said to me that I found uncomfortable/hurtful/rude, I am writing with the purpose of highlighting this behaviour. <br /><br /><br />There's a blogger I follow whose blog is around her child and the child's disability. This blogger has over 70,000 FB fans. The child is a toddler. I wonder how the child feels when they don't have a say in the level of fame they're getting? <br /><br /><br />As for open letters - I think certain things should be kept offline, between two people, but I think that for some, online is the only way they know how to communicate. I once read a heartbreaking blog post. The blogger's spouse responded to the post in the comment section. I was so sad that these issues could not be discussed or resolved in person.Carly Findlayhttp://Carlyfindlay.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-59769526402403255042015-01-07T22:25:58.645+11:002015-01-07T22:25:58.645+11:00Sappy and self indulgent just about sums this up -...Sappy and self indulgent just about sums this up - for some reason it's just making me angry. It's not just the sentimental twaddle, I mean seriously? I'm sorry everyone hated me despite me being the very best person I could be and doing everything in my power to make you happy? It's clearly not the whole story and I find it incredibly manipulative. I don't see this as a love story, to me this looks like a controlling person. I don't feel I've learned anything about their life by reading it just a very distorted image of someone who feels sorry for themselves. I'm not sure why I feel so passionate about this, maybe because I've encountered that kind of person myself. I didn't find it at all genuine or sincere.Sarah Macnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-52224891269366052862015-01-06T17:36:48.150+11:002015-01-06T17:36:48.150+11:00Agree that there is a difference between telling y...Agree that there is a difference between telling your story and your experience and exposing someone else. And I think you generally know when you've read one or the other. I read the first 3/4 of that piece and found it to be pretty insincere.Willisa Hhttp://www.willingme.com.au/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-76845975128475719142015-01-06T15:38:53.873+11:002015-01-06T15:38:53.873+11:00Great piece, thanks xGreat piece, thanks xKerri Sackvillehttp://www.lifeandothercrises.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-53768815205802725422015-01-06T15:38:42.794+11:002015-01-06T15:38:42.794+11:00AGREEAGREEKerri Sackvillehttp://www.lifeandothercrises.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-28346903581169737912015-01-06T15:38:35.711+11:002015-01-06T15:38:35.711+11:00It's amazing when I write how often someone as...It's amazing when I write how often someone asks if I'm referring to them and I NEVER am! It is NEVER about the person who thinks it's about them. So hopefully I'm doing a good job of disguising them.Kerri Sackvillehttp://www.lifeandothercrises.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-5007589900799442922015-01-06T15:37:04.851+11:002015-01-06T15:37:04.851+11:00LOL. Me too!LOL. Me too!Kerri Sackvillehttp://www.lifeandothercrises.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-55973261380572792802015-01-06T15:36:37.290+11:002015-01-06T15:36:37.290+11:00Exactly xExactly xKerri Sackvillehttp://www.lifeandothercrises.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-953196269557071652015-01-06T15:36:26.307+11:002015-01-06T15:36:26.307+11:00I suspect many people read it as you did because i...I suspect many people read it as you did because it was very popular! But I hated it xKerri Sackvillehttp://www.lifeandothercrises.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-55247873465093072272015-01-06T15:36:10.481+11:002015-01-06T15:36:10.481+11:00Very tricky. But we TRYVery tricky. But we TRYKerri Sackvillehttp://www.lifeandothercrises.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-35813165731391465432015-01-05T18:58:12.363+11:002015-01-05T18:58:12.363+11:00I read it completely differently- I didn't fin...I read it completely differently- I didn't find it sappy or self indulgent- I thought it was quite sad. I could see he was clearly in pain but I don't think it compromised her privacy- he shared lovely memories and wished her well. If only all exes handled the parting of ways so gracefully.HandbagMafiahttp://handbagmafia.net/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-73562937599466858982015-01-05T12:21:52.975+11:002015-01-05T12:21:52.975+11:00It is a very difficult line to navigate at times.It is a very difficult line to navigate at times.Nitanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-67946642438619343472015-01-05T08:32:00.811+11:002015-01-05T08:32:00.811+11:00I haven't read the open letter you cite Kerri,...I haven't read the open letter you cite Kerri, but I certainly agree with you in principle. Reading this sort of material always feels like voyeurism or schadenfreude to me, so I avoid it. :)Lee-Anne Walkernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-50361027174877647382015-01-04T21:20:18.318+11:002015-01-04T21:20:18.318+11:00Having had rather personal aspects of my life expo...Having had rather personal aspects of my life exposed on the internet, I completely understand where you're coming from. It's very difficult to have someone else telling their side of a story. I try to be quite careful with how much of other people's stories I am telling. There is a story I would like to tell but there are aspects of it that only make sense if I talk about someone else... and that's not something I'm willing to do. <br /><br />I've always been most careful about not writing things about my stepdaughter as I strongly believe they're not mine to tell. Even whenI wrote about being a stepmother I tried very hard not to give examples of things she had said or done. <br /><br />Then there are stories I have told that clearly are about other people, like the stories I have told about my abusive ex. I've never said which ex it was I'm writing about, but most people in my personal life would know. <br /><br />It's a tricky tightrope to walk.Tamsin Howsehttp://kikiandtea.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-16584405259246123112015-01-04T20:43:11.217+11:002015-01-04T20:43:11.217+11:00Yup. I wasted a couple of minutes of my life that ...Yup. I wasted a couple of minutes of my life that I cant get back reading D’Ambrosio's piece. All I could think is what a wuss and no wonder the woman left him. Wish I had expended the time on The Onion or something similar.mumabulousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-11978589598910998702015-01-04T20:01:17.123+11:002015-01-04T20:01:17.123+11:00I agree with you in principle but I don't agre...I agree with you in principle but I don't agree with you about this particular open letter. For centuries writers, poets and singers have told their love stories through words - for me this man's letter is the same. I do not see him as manipulative, I see him as hurt, I see his writing as a way of healing and he is only telling his side of the story - except for the part where he says he told her he would tell the world about his love - and now he is doing that. <br /><br />He doesn't tell her story, he doesn't even name her. He talks about his love and I thought it was beautiful.Lana (Sharpest Pencil)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-66837428208035322412015-01-04T19:58:51.407+11:002015-01-04T19:58:51.407+11:00I'm sorry, but I disagree. I have written exte...I'm sorry, but I disagree. I have written extensively about my ex, his abuse of me and his criminal activities relating to an underage minor. I want to expose him, I want him to pay, I want people to know what a scumbag he is. I want to ruin his life, the way he ruined mine. If I write a book one day it will include names and places, and appropriate legal advice. Some people don't deserve second and third chances and he's had both.Dorothyhttp://www.singularinsanity.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-33073266259517933772015-01-04T19:13:39.102+11:002015-01-04T19:13:39.102+11:00I completely agree - I don't want to read a st...I completely agree - I don't want to read a story that wasn't yours to tell.Amanda Smythhttp://cookerandalooker.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-35795972204016434302015-01-04T19:02:53.674+11:002015-01-04T19:02:53.674+11:00I recall discovering Somerset Maugham in my early ...I recall discovering Somerset Maugham in my early 20s (half a lifetime and some more ago) and being amazed at his imagination. In my mid-20s I read his biography (Somerset and all the Maughams) and realised many (if not most!) of his writing was either autobiographical or biographical, based on his own life or those he knew, and I learnt that those he wrote about were not happy about it! I was never able to read his stories with the same delight again. It seems to me as a writer it's either fiction or it's not. And if it's not based on fiction, then all the name and location changes are not going to mask it as so.Robert Fairheadhttp://www.robertfairhead.com.au/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-55057697228727487992015-01-04T17:44:13.003+11:002015-01-04T17:44:13.003+11:00As I said to to (jokingly) on Twitter the other da...As I said to to (jokingly) on Twitter the other day, with great power comes great responsibility...<br /><br /><br />...we all need to remember that every time we publish something, whether it be a blog, or newspaper column, or book...John Jameshttp://johnanthonyjames.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-18344284048755585432015-01-04T17:23:28.878+11:002015-01-04T17:23:28.878+11:00Love this.Love this.bigwordshttp://bigwordsblog.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-73740770971335806692015-01-04T16:35:55.007+11:002015-01-04T16:35:55.007+11:00Spot on Kerri.Spot on Kerri.Jodi Gibsonhttp://www.jfgibson.com.au/noreply@blogger.com