tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post1543035431918447626..comments2023-10-08T22:15:45.041+11:00Comments on Life & Other Crises: If you've ever rejected anyone you'll know this to be true...Kerri Sackvillehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08404421856986720832noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-62766672822245741232015-05-07T13:36:11.888+10:002015-05-07T13:36:11.888+10:00Well for one. She didn't say sorry. For anot...Well for one. She didn't say sorry. For another it wasn't spite, it was fear. How can I risk being open with her when I could be crushed so easily? To risk rejection once is normal. But I ask you. If you'd been devastated like that once, would you risk being hurt like that again?<br /><br />You see, I am a simple person. I take people at word. So I moved on. By the time she approached me, I was already seeing someone else. (Of course I never told her this).Benjaminnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-42830952854073332732015-05-07T11:34:17.192+10:002015-05-07T11:34:17.192+10:00HEAR HEAR!!!HEAR HEAR!!!Kerri Sackvillehttp://www.lifeandothercrises.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-36644940014322160482015-05-07T11:33:49.449+10:002015-05-07T11:33:49.449+10:00Aw.... XxAw.... XxKerri Sackvillehttp://www.lifeandothercrises.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-6798604853495264242015-05-07T11:33:38.674+10:002015-05-07T11:33:38.674+10:00Oh god no. I doubt he's been rejected in his l...Oh god no. I doubt he's been rejected in his life!Kerri Sackvillehttp://www.lifeandothercrises.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-39562394128023323792015-05-06T20:18:52.160+10:002015-05-06T20:18:52.160+10:00I can totally relate to this, and it's somethi...I can totally relate to this, and it's something I have wondered about myself. You are so right about them feeling entitled - and on some level they think that we will find them endearing if they persevere! <br /><br />P.S. SB would accept rejection like a gentleman. but this is of course a non sequitur - since no one in their right mind would reject him.Mudsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-3773991214592273142015-05-06T16:17:36.695+10:002015-05-06T16:17:36.695+10:00Arh dating, what a minefield of emotions.
ANd I a...Arh dating, what a minefield of emotions. <br />ANd I agree with Jono, who would reject you!!Sam Stonehttp://samanthastone.com.au/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-34818715615984109102015-05-06T15:17:43.832+10:002015-05-06T15:17:43.832+10:00Are you really suggesting people should go on nume...Are you really suggesting people should go on numerous dates even if they don't feel a connection, *just in case* in the future they do? Why waste time with people you don't want in your life! And of course there's judgement - Isn't the whole point of first dates so you can JUDGE if that person is right for you? <br /><br /><br />And I agree, with Kerry, being 'nervous' isn't what might put a woman off. My partner was pretty much the most nervous a man could be on our first meeting, but our connection was more than that and we kept seeing each other. What would have put me off was if he argued with me about what *I* felt.Allienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-81882769567986919662015-05-06T15:03:33.989+10:002015-05-06T15:03:33.989+10:00Don't worry Ben. I'll go out with you.Don't worry Ben. I'll go out with you.MadamBipolarnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-61499224511628483322015-05-06T13:04:18.654+10:002015-05-06T13:04:18.654+10:00Creating attraction in a girl requires the guy to ...Creating attraction in a girl requires the guy to give certain body language ques, make certain kinds of physical contact, and project a certain tone of voice. As well as also being playful, teasing, and generally easy going.<br /><br />While I find it easy to be this way among casual aquaintances and friends. Or the lady serving me in the cafe. Going on a date is like being in a pressure cooker. It's like having every single action scrutinised by someone who sees everything. Who never tells me what she's looking for, or what I'm doing wrong!<br /><br />Usually by the time I've gotten to know a girl well enough to ask her out, I already like her. Because it is usually someone I know. I'm terrified she might find out how I feel. I choke. She looses interest. We break up.<br /><br />Then months pass. We still are friends. Her friends talk to my friends. She finds out how I felt. She starts to get to know me. Sometimes my friends tell me what I did wrong, which I then fix.<br /><br /> She starts to like me. Then I have to let her go, because, I'm not prepared to risk being hurt by her a second time.<br /><br />I just can't understand this. Ehy can't people be more gracious about rejecting others, and not burn their bridges? Don't they understand that rejection is final? It doesn't make sense to make a decision based on a feeling. Especially when thay feeling could arrive months or weeks later.Benjaminnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-11794933899088483372015-05-06T12:10:30.497+10:002015-05-06T12:10:30.497+10:00You didn't even read what I wrote. Nerves aren...You didn't even read what I wrote. Nerves aren't an issue if there is a connection. <br />And you're being ridiculously petulant. If you like a girl but it takes her a while to be attracted to you, why would you reject her out of spite???Kerri Sackvillehttp://www.lifeandothercrises.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-81092089518340042552015-05-06T11:51:41.383+10:002015-05-06T11:51:41.383+10:00ROFL. That's such a girl thing to say! Creat...ROFL. That's such a girl thing to say! Creating "a connenction" is easy for a guy to fabricate, especially when one knows how to do it. Overcoming ones nerves is essential for projecting that kind of confidence which a woman find attractive.<br /><br />How else would you explain my experiences. I have been frequently been rejected by girls after 1 or 2 dates. Only to then have that girl get to know me, as a friend, and become attracted. To which I can only reply, "Sorry. But you've already rejected me. You made you're choice and there's no going back".<br /><br />Why are girls so stupid?Benjaminnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-2176471917466984582015-05-06T07:52:56.273+10:002015-05-06T07:52:56.273+10:00That's such a man thing to say!! But it's ...That's such a man thing to say!! But it's rubbish. I have twice become utterly enamored of men who were visibly crazily nervous on the first date. I get nervous too. But dating is about finding a connection. If it's there you'll see it through the nerves. If it's not it can't be manufactured. And seriously - would YOU give a girl you didn't like another chance because she argued????? Of course not.Kerri Sackvillehttp://www.lifeandothercrises.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-46984043018592371282015-05-06T00:52:16.966+10:002015-05-06T00:52:16.966+10:00The irony is palpable. :) It sounds to me like y...The irony is palpable. :) It sounds to me like you're seeking to make an argument for not having to listen to other peoples arguments... So why should I be compelled to listen to yours?<br /><br />Many people get nervous on first and second dates. They make mistakes. They are not themselves. Do you have the right to judge them? No you don't. 2 dates is not sufficient to know someone. So you're not really judging their character. You're assesing their ability to "play the game".<br /><br />Now do you have the right to end it? Of course you do. Do you need to give a reason? No you don't. Is your partner entitled to vent their frustration? Of course they are. You should at least recognise that rejection will cause pain, and frustration, which will very likely be expressed.<br /><br />Maybe your dates would be more comfortable, and able to be themselves, around you if you weren't so judgemental.Benjaminnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-62032623983181580112015-05-05T21:33:03.350+10:002015-05-05T21:33:03.350+10:00I would fight to the death for you and I am a woma...I would fight to the death for you and I am a woman. Just saying. I understand where these men are coming from.Lana (Sharpest Pencil)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-70376747281943015702015-05-05T21:15:31.129+10:002015-05-05T21:15:31.129+10:00Sounds like a real douche bagSounds like a real douche bagJono Rosenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-67357261181639347932015-05-05T21:14:23.642+10:002015-05-05T21:14:23.642+10:00There was this one guy once... He had red hair and...There was this one guy once... He had red hair and a goatee and 'claimed' to be married and living in Israel...... *sigh*Kerri Sackvillehttp://www.lifeandothercrises.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8774807226689612975.post-32279522620981980192015-05-05T21:10:31.241+10:002015-05-05T21:10:31.241+10:00Who would reject you Kerri? They are obviously ins...Who would reject you Kerri? They are obviously insane in the membrane.Jono Rosenoreply@blogger.com